3/4 of my people are dead and i cant find the staff that the guy in the elf house needs to have to heal my dead whare is it?

That blind cleric never resurrected my dead people. Find some wands, rings or scrolls of Raise Dead.

He did resurrect my cleric (the only one who could use my wand of resurrection), but admittedly, it was after I had returned the staff to him. How long had it been since you had saved the game?