right i don't know what it is, but whenever i post a reply on a topic it doesn't show up like it used to. whenever i used to post a reply it would show up right after i posted it, but now it just doesn't. what is it, slow connection or just need to wait?

For one thing, you should have posted this in Whatnots.
As for your question, it happens sometimes with certain ISPs. All your posts ARE here, you just can't see them for a while. Go to Whatnots and make a search there, this has been discussed in detail before.

The quickest way to fix it is to use another ISP if you have that option.