I've just been to my dads funeral and it was the most painful I've ever witnessed in my life. Seeing his coffin been driven away is just .. well, I cried. And I felt proud to have shown him some respect in his afterlife. I dunno what we can discuss in this topic but I just felt like posting it... Life is so much pain.

[ June 06, 2003, 22:39: Message edited by: Taluntain ]

Much symapthy, Trillex. I lost my dad before I was adult enough to get to know him as a person, and that's a hole I feel every day. I also lost my mother-in-law a few years ago. She was a lovely, wonderful woman and we still miss her.

Cherish the joyous memories and use them to help you get over the painful ones.

Oh man.

That's sad.

*hugs Trillex*

I know, loosing someone is terrible. I lost all my granparents and I really miss them :(

All my sympathy to you Trollex, I know what does loosing somebody mean. Bring all your good memories of him always with you, and share them with those you love.

My sympathie, TriLlex. It must be a real loss to say goodbye to the one you couldn't choose, but who has chosen for you.

There are many people in my community who died recently or are about to die. The father of one of my best friends, a mother of another, a 2 years old child, an other mother and right now there is an other mother (of my best FemFriend) in a coma. She's 54 years old and suffered from dementia since she was 32. I don't expect my own father to live very long either. His heart- and lung-diseases can be fatal with the warm weather coming up. So glad to believe in a God that promised me a real life.

Take some time to mourn, lad, but remember to walk tall!

That's very sad, Trillex. Though I don't know how it is to lose someone you love.
My grandfather died but I was 4 years old or so and I remember him only faintly.

All my sympathy. Bear your father in memory and honour him with your life. In some way he is still with you.

My condolences, Trillex.

My condolences as well. It's true life is pain, but it's the one we're stuck with. Don't let it defeat you. Keep your head up - there's always a bright side.

Know that you have friends here at SP. :)

* organizes group hug for Trillex *

I'm very sorry to hear that. :(

I had a grandfather die about five years ago, but I never really got to know him well, so it didn't weigh on me very heavily. I am sure your case is a different matter, though. Once again, I'm very sorry to hear that.

Thanks. It really made me feel much better..

@Master of Nuhn > Ah man, that must be very hard. I knew some of my friends cried in the church and I heard that the news of my fathers dead nearly killed a party with over 250+ people. Everyone were depressed .. or so I heard.

I'm not good at this stuff, but i have to give you my condolances Trillex. As most everyone here said in one way or another, keep his memory alive and let him live in your heart. And who knows, maybe there is an afterlife and you'll see him there... i'd like to think so atleast.
Once again i'm really sorry for your loss and glad that the guys made you feel better.

My condolences, Trillex. I can imagine what you're going through. I only see my father every three months or something like that...

My sympathy, Trillex.

My sympathies Trillex. I know how hard it can be.

My sincere condolences. It's never easy to lose someone dear to you.

One of my friends' dad died recently. I had posted a while ago in the Random post that he had cancer, well I feel bad for my friend, his mother was awful through it all and now has seperated him from his friends and family. It is all he can do to come down the hill to visit BlackCat and I once in a while.

Trillex, I can't fully understand what you must be going through, or indeed, what my friend is experiencing. The closest people I've ever lost was a dear friend and when I was young, a brother and sister.

I don't know if you are religious or believe in anything, or whatever, but I think it's good to think the person is never dead until people forget everythign about them, until then they are gone, and they have always gone somewhere good.

My condolences Trillex. Peace to your family and all those who considered your father a friend.

It seems everyone is dieing around me. Like god tries to hit me with lightning bolts but hit someone dear me or my friends..

My girlfriends best friend was just found dead. I didn't know him but it still hurts.. Why?!

I lost my mother 3 years ago and it still hurts. I cried like crazy at her funeral. It sucks, I know, and whatever people say, no matter how well meant it is, it all sounds trite and hopeless. I feel for you, Trillex, I really do.

My condolences too Trillex.

But I sense a very strong personality in you, that you don't hide in the corner and wither away with this alone. Instead you posted a thread about your feelings and keep your life rolling. I am proud of you. But of course it is by no means a shame to cry and grief the loss of your father either alone or with friends and family. Processing and acting out your feelings only keep you in touch with your emotions. And without them we are but empty shells. You must be honest with yourself and cry if you feel like it, and smile through the tears when you remember the pleasant moments. Only you knows what is right to do.

Always charish your father's voice. Keep his voice inside your head. Let him live on both in heaven, if there is such a place and inside yourself too. I force myself to remember the voices of my lost family members, so that I always have them with me. And the voices aid me in recalling the pleasant memories of the times we spent together.

[ June 12, 2003, 00:34: Message edited by: Nobleman ]

Wise words, made me shed a tear..

Trillex.

My condolences.

One thing I remember about my close ones that I have lost is the good that they did for me, that I did for them and the good times we spent together. They seem still alive.

My condolences too.

My friend's father died in a car accident just a few years ago, when I heard what happened the doorbell rang, and my friend stood there crying. It marked me for the rest of my life, and I still remember him standing there...