View Full Version : Drug addict ordered not to have any more children


chevalier
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 9:52pm
Family Court judge in Rochester (US) has ordered a drug addict not to have any more children until she reclaims her biological children from current custodians. The woman has already lost custody of seven (seven) children, each with a different man.

The youngest child and two others tested positive for cocaine at birth and all seven "were removed from her care and custody because she could not and did not take care of them," Judge Marilyn O'Connor said in a December 22 decision made public Tuesday.

"Because every child born deserves a mother and a father, or at the very least a mother or a father, this court is once again taking this unusual step of ordering this biological mother to conceive no more children until she reclaims her children from foster care or other caretakers," O'Connor wrote.

In a similar ruling last March, O'Connor ordered a drug-addicted, homeless mother of four to refrain from bearing children until she won back care of her children. The decision, the first of its kind in New York, is being appealed.

Wisconsin and Ohio have upheld similar rulings involving "deadbeat dads" who failed to pay child support. But in other states, judges have turned back attempts to interfere with a person's right to procreate.(http://edition.cnn.com/2005/LAW/01/05/children.ruling.ap/index.html)

In case anyone wonders:

O'Connor said she was not forcing contraception or sterilization on the mother, who had children with seven different men, nor requiring her to get an abortion should she become pregnant. But she warned that the woman could be jailed for contempt if she has another child.

Morgoroth
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 10:24pm
I bet abortion would have helped in solving of this issue. ;)

Seriously though I believe having a child is a human right and putting someone to jail just because they get pregnant and either refuse to abort the pregnancy or just do not bother with it is horribly wrong. Now this is of course horrible for the children but denying a woman the right to have a child is unethical in all circumstances imho.

chevalier
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 10:33pm
How is it unethical to forbid someone to have children he or she isn't going to care about?

There's no absolute fundamental right to have children, but there's a set of children rights.

Morgoroth
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 11:21pm
Well let's say she quits the drugs and gets drunk and then sleeps with a man and gets pregnant. Is this a punishable act? Is having sex something that she should be punished for? If she's a drug addict then I believe the conditions should be that she would either go to jail or to treatment because of her drug abuse or she could be put to jail because of her abandoning of her previous children but not because she gets pregnant and has another child.

Sarevok•
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 11:50pm
I don't think there is anything wrong with the decision.

joacqin
Thu, 6th Jan '05, 11:54pm
This is a tricky question, I agree with both the courts and Morgoroth. Cant they just throw her in jail for possession drugs, cant be that hard to catch a hardcore addict with stuff on her, and keep her there. It will at least be harder for her to get pregnant while in prison than on the outside. No official hindrance for her to get pregnant, her rights are safe and no more poor kids who are born doped up and without parents.

This is assuming that abortion was a clear and easy option for her and not practically if not theoretically prohibited for her. It might have been the womans clear choice not have an abortion and it can have been impossible for her to get them due to cost or legality and the like. If the latter this situation can easily be avoided in the future by making it easier for people to get abortions.

Pac man
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 12:06am
A little far fetched if you ask me. Just because she tested positive on cocaine doesn't necessarily mean she's a drug addict, that's such a harsh word. But what else can you expect in a nation that has declared war on drugs. :rolleyes: She might be just an occasional user, which means that she might be quite capable of being a good mom. Not a very responsible one, mind you, but taking her kids away at birth is a bit too drastic in my book.

Morgoth
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 12:24am
Paccie, please read the link, she did not take care of her children.

Funny thing actually, a fundamental right to have children, did some divine presence stated that every human being is allowed to have children?
Then why can only woman have children?
Fundamental right to have children, fah, she has seven! And the cocaine can do nasty things to the fetuses, deforming them.

I think the decision is just, children have rights too, although not a fundamental one, but one 'we' give them.

toughluck
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 12:26am
Alcohol is a drug... The fact that it's legal doesn't make it any less of a drug than it is.

If she would actually drop the addiction, even then we would have to question her motives for getting a child:
1. She already has seven of them, why not try and reclaim them if she had the chance?
2. Why would she try to have a baby? In order to possess a child? It's not even 'to have,' it's 'to possess' in this case. That motive is already questionable.

@Pac man - I'm sure she is. I'm sure she took cocaine just prior to birth to help her relax... Sure.
If she'd be an occassional user, and if she would be a good mom, why would she try to poison her child just prior to bearing it? Mind you, being tested positive means that the drug has not been passed away from the body, which conversely means that it had been taken recently.
Anyway, I agree with you! I'm sure that when she was drugged, she could take great care of her children. Perhaps when she would be high and breastfeeding them, she would transfer the drugs with milk. Maybe she would forget that she has a child on her laps and suddenly decide to stand up.
'Oh, the child fell down? Meh.'
It's definitely too drastic to take away her child at birth. She would definitely be a good mom, having been given the chance. But now will we ever find out?
(Oh, and if my reply to you sounds sarcastic, it's meant to. If it seems schizophrenic - it's a rethorical figure to emphasise the irony.)

Pac man
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 3:10am
Fyi, cocaine stays in your system up to 3-4 weeks after you used it, so she might be the kind of person that "parties" once a month. What's the big deal with that ? Millions of people around the world do that, that still doesn't make them drug addicts.

Like i said, obviously she's not too bright, and lacks responsibility, but taking her child away isn't the right thing to do. Some education and guidance might open her eyes, she's not a criminal for crying out loud, just a confused human being.

Shalladeth
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 3:50am
I think the big deal here can be summed up by the first sentence of the first quote of this thread:
"The youngest child and two others tested positive for cocaine at birth.."

Am I missing something here? Does this not clearly indicate a problem if multiple children are testing positive for cocaine at birth?

Gnarfflinger
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 3:59am
From a Christian standpoint, We are commanded to go forthe, be fruitful and multiply. We are also commanded to refrain from sexual activity outside of legal and lawful marriage. Therefore, the court is not out of line in requiring a more responsible use of the ability to procreate.

NonSequitur
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 7:23am
Well, as ethically tenuous as this line is, I don't disagree with the court's verdict. This lady obviously can't provide a suitable environment for her kids to grow up in. Sure, we may have a right, even a duty, to procreate, but with that "right" come a number of obligations, which we seem to have conveniently forgotten. It's not particularly nice to do this, but I find it peculiarly ironic that in an age of increasing reliance on the law and the legal profession to resolve matters, we expect the institutions of justice and resolution to remain static and unchanging, with the same remedies and sanctions applied. This verdict speaks to me of a new line of judicial thought: there is an unspoken agreement between citizens and the state; you have rights, but you have duties too, and you must meet them in order to merit those entitlements.

Maybe I'm bitter - I spent the holiday season working at a Christmas-themed production and the staff unanimously agreed that you should have to pass a Parenting Test before you can have children (for a whole host of reasons). This woman's kids have no chance at all with her in her current state; I am far more sympathetic to the kids and to any potential future offspring of this woman than to her until she takes back some sort of control over her life. I am sorry for her distress, but her desires do not supercede the needs of her biological children, and if she truly wants them back, she should make an effort to change her behaviour.

AMaster
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 8:49am
Well, as ethically tenuous as this line is, I don't disagree with the court's verdict. This lady obviously can't provide a suitable environment for her kids to grow up in. Sure, we may have a right, even a duty, to procreate, but with that "right" come a number of obligations, which we seem to have conveniently forgotten. It's not particularly nice to do this, but I find it peculiarly ironic that in an age of increasing reliance on the law and the legal profession to resolve matters, we expect the institutions of justice and resolution to remain static and unchanging, with the same remedies and sanctions applied. This verdict speaks to me of a new line of judicial thought: there is an unspoken agreement between citizens and the state; you have rights, but you have duties too, and you must meet them in order to merit those entitlements.I'd expand upon this a bit; it's my belief that a significant proportion of the population is simply not suitable to raise children.

Of course, it's nigh-impossible to figure out an objective scale to measure who is and who isn't, so government intervent, aside from education, simply isn't an option.

Taza
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 11:22am
How do you define "not suitable" to raise children?
Depending on the culture, you can say that of anyone.

And if that road is taken we can say that black people may not have children as they're not suitable to raise them. Substitute the blacks with jews. Or average whites. Or americans. Or asians. Or europeans. Nevermind the australians. Or africans.

Morgoth
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 2:24pm
@Pacman, I don't give a rats arse if that woman used cocaine only once at a party, 4 weeks before she gave birth. She endangered her child, she did it even multiple times!
I would even call her inresponsible and unsuitable to take care of her children if she drank more than 4 cups of coffee in a day, or drank a beer when she was pregnant. Gee, why not jump in a rollercoaster while she's at it.

Abomination
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 2:46pm
I agree with the courts' decisions but they should prevent her from having any more children, not just order her to stop. She's had SEVEN and all have been taken from her care due to neglect or plain useless parenting.

No question about it, this women should never have been allowed to have children in the first place let alone be allowed to have them now.

Pac man
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 3:31pm
@ Morgoth

That's why i said that the woman needs guidance, some serious attention. Put the child under supervision until the woman shows signs of rehabilitation. Maybe that never happens, maybe it does, but she deserves a chance to make things right. doesn't everyone ? Or are you one of those "all drugusers go to hell" type of crybabies ?

Morgoth
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 4:35pm
I didn't say it, but I don't agree with the decision being permanent, if she ever becomes a good responsible parent, then she may have rights over the children again, as long as the children and their foster parents don't object.

And people can snove, drink, smoke their brains to the next level for all I care, as long as they don't endanger other people.

chevalier
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 4:56pm
Fyi, cocaine stays in your system up to 3-4 weeks after you used it, so she might be the kind of person that "parties" once a month. What's the big deal with that ?FYI, two of her children were tested positive for cocaine at birth. How big a deal is this?

That's why i said that the woman needs guidance, some serious attention. Put the child under supervision until the woman shows signs of rehabilitation. Maybe that never happens, maybe it does, but she deserves a chance to make things right. doesn't everyone ? Or are you one of those "all drugusers go to hell" type of crybabies ?Please read the article first, thank you. The judge ordered the woman not to have any more children until she reclaims all the seven children she already has from caretakers and other temporary custodians. This is exactly what we call a chance to make things right. If she does have a baby, it will be put under supervision, as you say, but the woman will go to prison for contempt of court. But you would know all this if you read the article.

Pac man
Fri, 7th Jan '05, 5:08pm
Erm...i don't exactly regard a judge as guidance, nobody does. I meant psychiatrists, people who know what they're talking about. A judge is just someone who comes to a verdict, and often enough it's not even a good one too.

Morgoroth
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 12:14am
Well I don't think the article presented the standpoint of the woman very well. I would like to know why she did not have abortion and I would also like to know if she really wanted to have anything to do with those children or not. If the state does not offer free abortion (I assume the lack of money was the biggest reason she did not have an abortion but of course I could be wrong) these are exactly the sorry cases that will happen.

Putting the woman to jail just because she has a child is just stupid. What should she do if she for example got raped or is taken advantage of by some drunk? Should she be put to jail for that?

The courts are practically forcing her to get sterilized or abstain of having sex since preventation is not 100% certain and probably not very well available for her either. Personally I think she should be put to jail for neglecting her children or because of drug abuse but to threaten her with a jail sentence if she gets a child is just stupid.

Shalladeth
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 12:47am
Perhaps in this case the judge considered her having another child as a form of child abuse. I would certainly consider any form of excessive drug or alcohol use during pregnancy that could have an adverse affect on the child once it's born to be child abuse.
Threatening to put her in jail may be stupid, but I'm guessing this judge is trying to provide more consequences to this lady's lifestyle since she doesn't seem to be phased by having children.

toughluck
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 1:33am
I'm just wondering how that woman has reacted to this verdict. You know, she might have just snubbed and ignored it...

AMaster
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 8:25am
How do you define "not suitable" to raise children?I don't.

And if that road is taken we can say that black people may not have children as they're not suitable to raise them. Substitute the blacks with jews. Or average whites. Or americans. Or asians. Or europeans. Nevermind the australians. Or africans.You'll note I said that government intervention isn't an option. I agree with you. That doesn't change my belief that many people out there shouldn't be having kids.

chevalier
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 4:03pm
Erm...i don't exactly regard a judge as guidance, nobody does. I meant psychiatrists, people who know what they're talking about. A judge is just someone who comes to a verdict, and often enough it's not even a good one too.Chance to right the wrongs has been given, anyway. It's only reasonable that the woman should start giving a damn about all her seven previous children who are in foreign custody right now than produce another five just to leave them on their own.

People have some right to procreate but not to reproduce and have someone else do the job of caretaking and upbringing.

Well I don't think the article presented the standpoint of the woman very well. I would like to know why she did not have abortion and I would also like to know if she really wanted to have anything to do with those children or not. If the state does not offer free abortion (I assume the lack of money was the biggest reason she did not have an abortion but of course I could be wrong) these are exactly the sorry cases that will happen.News: people don't have to get stoned and put out with strangers. It's their own choice. If someone can't hold her legs together, abortion is not a solution to the problem.

Putting the woman to jail just because she has a child is just stupid. What should she do if she for example got raped or is taken advantage of by some drunk? Should she be put to jail for that?1 There would be no guilt for conception on the woman's part if she were raped, so no punishment would apply. 2 The judge said she didn't require abortion, so there would be no guilt for carrying the child, and so no punishment would apply.

Taken advantage by a drunk in a situation other than rape? Well, she doesn't have to get stoned as a rock with lonely strangers.

The courts are practically forcing her to get sterilized or abstain of having sex since preventation is not 100% certain and probably not very well available for her either. Personally I think she should be put to jail for neglecting her children or because of drug abuse but to threaten her with a jail sentence if she gets a child is just stupid.The judge said she didn't require any form of contraception or infertilisation or abortion. So yeah, this sounds like abstinence. People don't have to shag like bunnies; if she can't take the responsibility for having fun with guys, she should be out rather than producing more and more cocaine-positive children each with a different man.

Perhaps in this case the judge considered her having another child as a form of child abuse. I would certainly consider any form of excessive drug or alcohol use during pregnancy that could have an adverse affect on the child once it's born to be child abuse.Perhaps the judge actually wanted her to start working on reclaiming the children. Putting her to jail would delay the process.

If I were the judge, I would give the woman a choice: therapy and reclaiming her children under some penalty or going to jail right away for child abuse, drug possession etc. I would seriously think about the ban on further children, as it could lead to the woman having abortion and that's not exactly the way to teach her responsible parenting. :rolleyes: Doesn't mean I wouldn't heavily limit her social life along with those drug orgies, effectively forcing her to keep her legs crossed.

Shalladeth
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 5:12pm
Ideally, she should be put into rehab to get her off the drugs first, then helped to find a job so she could afford a house and afford to take care of her kids.
Since none of this is going to happen, and without knowing anything more about the woman and her life, my sympathies in this case lie with the children.
I would seriously think about the ban on further children, as it could lead to the woman having abortion and that's not exactly the way to teach her responsible parenting.Agreed, and I'd be curious to hear what the judge had to say about that.
Doesn't mean I wouldn't heavily limit her social life along with those drug orgies, effectively forcing her to keep her legs crossed.I'm curious as to how you would limit the social life of a homeless drug addict? This is a sad situation all around, and regardless of everything thing else, getting the children in to foster care was probably the best thing to come out of all this.

Morgoroth
Sat, 8th Jan '05, 5:43pm
News: people don't have to get stoned and put out with strangers. It's their own choice. If someone can't hold her legs together, abortion is not a solution to the problem.Yeah free will is great and all but if she's seriously an addict then she has really not much choice than get the drugs where ever they are available. To say that it's her own choise is stupid. Once one gets addicted to the drug the drug will control her thoughts and her will. It's quite naive to say that it's her choice to get stoned at this point.

Sexual intercourse can't be a punishable act. It may be so in the bible but it can't be so in the law, unless you live in a theocracy that is.

People don't have to shag like bunnies; if she can't take the responsibility for having fun with guys, she should be out rather than producing more and more cocaine-positive children each with a different man. No people don't have to shag like bunnies. But who are you or the courts to say that they should not be able to do so? One has a right to decide about his/her own sexual behaviour.

Personally I feel the woman should be given the choice of anti-drug treatment or prison sentence. Trying to limit her sexual life with a threat of a jail sentence is wrong and something I would not accept.

Gnarfflinger
Sun, 9th Jan '05, 5:04am
Morgoroth is right. The Woman should be in treatment or jail. That would be a step to get her on the right track or out of sexual circulation...

The Great Snook
Tue, 11th Jan '05, 3:47am
I agree. Jail or treatment makes the most sense for this woman. I'm pretty sure we don't allow this, but I would also forcibly remove her from her situation. After her treatment or jail time was over, I would place her on a farm a thousand miles away from her problems. Returning to the origin of her problems can't possibly help her.