Bad behavior

[Urithrand]

I'm like many of the people on here, a very defensive person. I don''t fight, and I get intimidated when people fight around me. If someone starts something with me, I back off, often when I'm even in the right. There was one occasion when someone took things a little too far.

He started off insulting me personally, which, by the way, has absolutely no effect on me whatsoever. Realising this, he moved onto more inventive insults about my family, my friends and my social circle. This got me a little red behind the ears, but I still sat (Inhumanly patient I hope you appreciate) and remained calm.

Then he started being what Caleb called a "Nazi." I am a very open minded person, and I get very frustrated with people like that. When he started picking on gays, blacks, women, HIV victims etc. etc. I started getting very angry (Not a sight even I see very often)

Finally, he took the final bite by breaking my personal boundry (Something I have a very peculiar respect for) and speaking about my ex whom I had only recently split from, and was still hurting very much.

Finally flipping, (Yes, you knew it was coming) I grabbed him by the head and slammed it into the vertical poles they put on busses to help you stand. About five or six times, actually. When his eyes looked a little glazed, I purposefully broke his nose and then drew my knee into his delicate areas so hard I'm quite sure he'll never have children.

I regretted it for a while, but his injuries weren't serious, and he was only off school for about a month, so my conscience was eased somewhat. After that, my friends looked at me with a strange kind of respect I'd never seen before, and I had to be very careful not to let the newfound "Beast within" go to my head.

By the way, for the record, I'm still a pacifist.....

[Foradasthar]

Well you know what they say, don't fight fire with fire. But sometimes making a big enough fire to burn the oxygen out from the first one works just as well.

[Arabwel]

I write a nasty fate to them in my novel

Seriouslyy, I've been known to hit a guy with a frying pan after insulting me... then again, I was 13 at the time. I've also thrown books at people, hit people with books, and made horrible nasty insulting comments back.

Nowadays, i mostly seethe and just quote Edwin....

[Abomination]

Let me guess, Arabwel... they all end in something like "*FOOF* Fireball!"

[Arabwel]

Nah, not really... since it's a non-fantasy one, let's just say that the evil insane madwomman who has the world in her grasp just smiles evilly at the mention of them...

In the sequel, am planning for gory flashbacks... someone WILl get their parts removed with a spoon

Or not, since the first one went way off the original so-called-plot.

[Enagonios]

Mine seems kind of tame compared to this stuff hehe.
I was in grade 4 and this guy kicked my bag (im a small guy) so i waited till recess and snuck back into the classroom when nobody was around. i then proceeded to methodically tear off all the covers of his books and notebooks and threw them into the trash can. then i peed all over it. hehe. kinda childish, but hey, i was a child
On a more serious note, recently, some fcuker kissed my gf when she was in a less than sober mode (her fault too i know) so im currently in martial arts training. when i get good enough im going to kick the guy's ass. i can hold a grudge as long as the drow can. that little biatch (he is a bit smaller than me, but considerably stronger) better watch out when i come for him. he better hope i get good too, because if i don't screw hand-to-hand combat, im gonna whack him with a hammer. i Sh*t you not haha

@Aldazar
i dont mean this to sound like a judgement man, but im just really curious as i am in a similar situation. how do you justify cheating on someone after they cheated on you first? ill be the first to admit that it's tempting, but why bother taking them back anyway after they cheated on you if that's all you were going to do anyway? just curious..

btw on a side note: i agree with foradasther, if the guy started the sh*t and you didn't do anything to provoke him, he deserves what he gets. myself, i probably wouldn't kill him though (i have a severe fear of being pounded in the ass in jail or anywhere else for that matter heh). but i could kill given the right reason/motivation i think. hell, i think everyone could. hehe this looks like its on the way to the alley.

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[chevalier]

@Enagonios: Martial arts training is good for you anyway, but taking it just to try and kick the ass of one particular guy is not worth it. How much training would you need if you can't beat him now? One year? Two? You'll probably have had a couple of new girlfriends by then.

Call me harsh and cruel, but if your girlfriend can't keep her charms about herself when drunk, you actually owe the guy a favour for showing it to you. If she didn't resist, pity, but the man hadn't promised anything to you and she is the one to blame, not he.

[Harbourboy]

Ah, yes, I agree with Chevalier. If she can't control herself, that's her fault. If she can't control herself once, she's not going to be able to control herself in the future. Plus, I've done martial arts for years but I still know if I get into an un-referred unarmed street-fight with someone, I'm very likely to get hurt somewhere along the way(unless my opponent is completely useless). I'd move on and enjoy my life if I was you.

[Dice]

Kind of an interesting thread - thought I would dig it up from the grave

[Shoshino]

do you just spend your time trawling through old threads?

[Dice]

Lol not really Shoshino - I just thought it might be fun to put a few old faces back up for a bit. History of thought can be thought provoking. Actually I'm hoping I didn't say anything really embarrassing in there because to tell you the truth I haven't re-read through the whole thing myself yet.

Call me reckless but I just like to keep things interesting . I guess I'll actually go and read the whole thing again now.

[Shoshino]

Well, I haven't read the thread, just from Urithrand's post above. I like to think I have good self control, people think of us door security and think of big thugs in bomber jackest beating the $h!t out of who ever we want. But we've evolved from that image, infact we are disciplined professionals. Last weekend a guy in his 40's tried to rape a young girl in one of the disabled toilets in the club, a random person raised the alarm and 4 of us moved in to grip him, we simply restrained him until we could turn him over to police unharmed....

how many of you could have done that? We wanted to kill him, and we could have easily done it.

[Dice]

That's good Shoshino, self control is a very respectable quality although I am sure it is also an important aspect of your profession.

[Troy's Owner]

my latest escapade involved payback on an idiot who carved me up in a dangerous manner on the M2 when I had my daughter in the car with me.
By coincidence, he ended up in the inside lane, with me in the fast lane, he realised & tried to undertake me, whic make me even more pissed of at him, so I kept my car just below level with his for over 5 miles, blockin all his attempts at undertaking me again, of which there were a few, for just over 5 miles, all the while, my daughter & I were both visibly laughing at his frustration....until I finally looked over & saw the steam coming outta his ears, at which point, I couldn't help myself & started laughing hysterically, with tears actually tripping me. I eventually rose above it & drove on, but not b4 majorly p*ssing him off. Maybe he'll think twice about carving another driver so dangerously just because it was 2 girls in the car!!! :-) Btw, I am normally a very restrained person who lets most carvings on the road drift right over my head!

[Master of Nuhn]

Ooh! Making men cry behind the wheel. You're good!

I'm not familiar with "carving" though. What does it mean to "carve another driver"? Is that the same as cutting someone off/in/up, forcing her/him to abruptly hit the breaks to avoid collision?

[Gaear]

Sorry, but that was reckless behavior on your part, and with your daughter in the vehicle no less. It never, ever pays to engage in driving competitions with angry or reckless people or to try to enforce your idea of the laws of the road. If they are so reckless as to warrant that, you should simply let them pass, get a vehicle description and plate number, and call police.

The stakes are just too high. At best you piss them off and go on your way. So what? At worst, you (and maybe your daughter) die, because vehicles colliding or rolling over or running off the road at high speeds almost never ends well.

[T2Bruno]

Gaear, this IS a thread about self-admitted bad decisions (anger management issues notwithstanding), no need to go all preachy here.

On an unrelated note: Troy's Owner, could you please post your driving schedule for the next ... year or so....

[Gaear]

Sorry, my bad.

[Troy's Owner]

I'm sorry but did you even bother reading the whole post or were you simply too busy feeling superior & pontificating?

First of all, where do you get off judging other people's parenting skills? I am, if anything actually, an extremely over protective mother & would NEVER EVER put either of my children's safety in jeopardy.

I did also make it abundantly clear that I am not the type of driver who would normally partake in this kind of behaviour & I neither invited this idiot's wreckless manner of driving & putting both our safety in jeopardy, nor did I breach any road safety rules or guidelines by doing what I did...in actual fact, my actions not only succeeded in slowing down this particular idiot's driving antics for a short while, but I also managed to prevent him from putting other driver in danger...other drivers who just might not have been as experienced, confidant or reserved as I am, especially given that I am actually an experienced rally driver, having partaken of the sport since my early 20's, with a completely clean licence for over 25 years, or who, worse still, might have had young children in their vehicle.

Just to be very clear, my daughter is not a child, she's almost 19 & is actually a very good driver herself who also knows that I am not the type of peron who normally either partakes nor condones engaging in the antics of idiot drivers but let me think...alternative courses of action??
I would have been quite within my rights, given his actions, to have reported his antics to the police & yeah, he might have had his wrist slapped, something I sure he would have laughed off, but at least my course of action will most definitely stick in his memory & hopefully, I have pointed out to him that this kind of blatant disregard for the safety & well-being of other road users is not acceptable in any way!
It was quite simply a harmless bit of fun that had a deeper point which was quite literally driven home! lol

OR, you could just take your own advice & when something annoys you, you could quite simply rise above it & move on or then again, just mind your own business & refrain from passing judgement on people you know absolutely nothing about, especially when it come to something as serious as questioning their parenting ethics!!

So, wise up, get a life of your own, get off your soap box or at least save your pathetic rant for someone who actually cares about your unwelcome self-righteous opinions to yourself!!

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Hiya,
thanks, :-) & yes, carving does mean exactly what you described, however I do have to confess that this course of action is one that I would not normally resort to.

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lol, you're quite safe, I'm not normally that reactionary but when someone else puts your child in danger by almost causing you to write off your car for no apparent safety oriented reason& then flicks you the finger when you toot your horn, everyone is bound to react eventually!!

[Blackthorne TA]

Whoa now. Before this degenerates further and leads into rule-breaking, let's all calm down and try to be civilized.

[Gaear]

[Splunge]

Who'd've thunk that a thread about bad behavior would produce an example of bad behavior?

[Troy's Owner]

Originally Posted by Blackthorne TA

Whoa now. Before this degenerates further and leads into rule-breaking, let's all calm down and try to be civilized.

I am a very reserved & mild mannered person, it normally takes an awful lot to provoke any kind of reaction from me & I only posted on this for a bit of fun, which was what I thought this thread was meant to be...but I am first & foremost a very loving & admittedly over-protective parent & do not take an accusation of putting my child's life in danger lightly when I clearly did not, especially when my "judge" & jury" is someone who knows absolutely nothing about me or my family.

If you read some of the earlier posts on this thread, my post was mild in comparison, maybe if I hadn't been attacked about the most important part of my life, I would not have replied so vehemently.

Yes, I could have replied a little differently, but then maybe the other member could have a little more respect for the whole ethos of chatrooms...friendly exchange of views & memories. I do appreciate that this person did accept their over-reaction when it was politely pointed out by another member, but it is a pity that the need for such an attack was not tempered with the aforementioned respect...something I always have & always will abide by in forums, I just ask for the same in return.

[Blackthorne TA]

Certainly. And there was no rebuke in my last post, just a friendly warning to everyone to not let things get out of hand here.

[Dice]

Wow, I step away from the BOM for a few days and things get interesting. Heya Troy's Owner, you seem a little new around here. Actually we are a pretty friendly community. You might have gotten a wrong impression of the people around here. Gaear and BT are very kind and respectable people, as I am sure you are as well. I'm sure if you get to know everybody around here you will see we are mostly pretty good people .